15 THINGS YOU MUST NEVER SAY TO HER ON THE FIRST DATE

15 THINGS YOU MUST NEVER SAY TO HER ON THE FIRST DATE

Women are quite sensitive and easily read meanings into everything a guy says, especially a guy that she is really into. Like the say- first impression matters a lot; so for this sane reason a guy must understand the psyche of a woman he is out with on a first date. Understanding her implies so many things- from what she likes; those things that can transform her mood from happy to sad, what type of discussions she abhors and just anything that can ruin an evening out with that dream girl.

While doing this, you need to figure out what is proper to say and what is inappropriate.  This is what this article will be looking into as I list 15 frequently disturbing things women generally hate to be asked or told that can create a negative impression of  the  man she once thought was the man of her  dreams.

1. How old are you? One thing I’ve noticed about women in my many years of dealing with them is that they love being called babies showing you how age conscious they are. So asking her how old she is especially on the first date might be misconstrued for something out of context. It would seem like you are actually telling her she is too old for you. I still recall this one time I asked a female friend of mine that I was out with on what I call a “how are you date?” (wonder what that even means), how old she was- this lady almost blew the top of the roof with her rants and tantrums as she felt some of her friends must have told me how old she is or whatever the hell she was truly thinking. It took some pretty useful time and effort to calm her down as I expertly and subtly talked her back into some healthy good mood. So if you must know this my young man for purpose of clarity- never ask any lady how old she is, however you can slyly use euphemisms like “when did you graduate from high school?”, “did you watch this TV program…?” and just any question that depicts time and season. From the answers she gives based on the above type of questions, you can ingeniously fathom, out her real age. 
2. Are you a Virgin? How dare you ask this from a lady on a first date? Well I don’t need to tell you what is going to happen when you do. But on the flip side, if you haven’t asked this kind of question on a first date, so please save yourself from an evening of embarrassment and keep this question faraway. Is like asking a nun how she felt from her first kiss; or asking a gay man what it is like sleeping with a woman. Just imagine the scenario, can you picture it? Then you can now understand the implication of doing this. There was this particular lady I had a date with, well it was a double date with another friend of mine- this friend of mine for lack of what to say or plain timidity or should I call it misguided inquisitiveness; he asked his lady friend if she was a virgin. This ruined the whole date, as my own lady friend felt maybe I somehow had something to do with this a conspiracy of some sort. On a serious note, just save this question for another day, maybe in the heat of passion or when the relationship must have gone strong and developed some foothold. 
3.  Oh! My Ex Looks like you: another spoiler that can make an already bad situation worse. Women from study hate being compared to another woman. Recently I was having this discussion with a female relative of mine and I was actually telling her something about an ex-girlfriend of mine and I made some comparison of her character and mien with the said lady. She blew her top and warned me sternly to desist comparing her with another woman, not just any woman but one I had a negative history with. This will give you a clear and vivid picture of how it will be telling a lady you are planning to have as a lover or even wife that she shares some physical features or attributes with an ex-girlfriend. It is like telling her that she is no better than this ex. It also depicts some packets of affection and connection with the ex. So please keep the conversation within what concerns the both of you and how you can move your relationship forward. Talking or comparing an ex can create unnecessary tension that would have been avoided if you had sealed you mouth on such a frivolous and extraneous topic.  
4.  Hey! You look so lean: women get easily carried away when you flatter them about their looks. Even the most terrible of the female specie feel on top of the world when you treat and regard her as a queen especially when you make reference of how good she looks even comparing her to Aphrodite or Calypso. Please never tell a woman that she looks sick in any way, I was told a woman how she looked lean and frail like a pregnant woman, oblivious to me this lady was actually pregnant for a man out of wedlock. This ruined my once friendly relationship I had with this lady. Even if she looked lean or sickly, there are better ways to say this. You can say, “…hey baby you look cool, it’s like you are on diet?” Or “you look a little stressed out; don’t you think you should rest more?” Avoid saying things as they actually are especially when it concerns a lady, more so on a first date. This will make her feel terrible and inferior and as such not good enough for you. This kind of scenario is most common in a blind date. So as a man with good character and decorum, your manner of speech should reflect a profound degree of intellect, civility and class, get a clue. 
5.  You a little taller than my EX: whoa! Yet another first date blunder I see many guys committing day in day out. Like I said above, women and human beings generally hate being compared to another. Know this also, women are very sensitive to height issues, most especially those ones not so lucky with it. To you, it might sound like a compliment, but on the contrary it is actually an insult. Just imagine a lady telling you how her ex was so tall that she had to stand on toes to kiss him? What she is ultimately telling you is that you are short. So my candid advise to you while out on a first date, never make mention of her height in any form or manner in your speech and conversations. I’ve noticed that even the very tall ladies feel uneasy when been compared to a tall runway model. On a sound note bro, stay of heights or risk falling off and breaking your legs -losing her I mean. 
6. I need to call my Mum: seriously are you a baby? Are you still suckling mama’s breasts? I think you are still in diapers? Whatever the case might be, calling your mum on a first date tells her how childish and immature you really are. It also depicts insecurity and fear, it shows you are so attached to mummy that she detects to you when to go out and when not to. Though a little family support is necessary for a relationship to go further, but that attachment must not be so obvious that even a small complain your mum makes of her might lead to you breaking up with her. But this should be greatly avoided on a first date, as any impression you create that tell her that you cannot protect her from family scrutiny especially mama’s, then sorry bro she sure will have the next date with another strong and dependable guy, trust me. 
7.  Can I read your Texts? I need some vestige of freedom while in any relationship. So asking her about every texts that enters her phone while both of you are out can mean pettiness and insecurity on you own side. Women need strong and not insecure men. Men who feel paranoid and pitiful easily find themselves sorted out quick by the ladies. Going through her texts or phone generally on a first date is a date killer which from experience will get you to the bins. Don’t say I didn’t warn you. 
8. Look like you need a mirror: what? Are you out of your mind? How can you in your right mind ask her to take a look at a mirror? Don’t you know you are her mirror? If she has some meat leftovers on her teeth, just stylishly help her remove it. Referring a mirror to her can kill her mood as she might be thinking how badly disheveled she looks. Mirrors are date killers and avoiding topics bordering on them can fetch you a second date, try me. 
9.  My neighbor’s sixteen year old daughter uses the exact earrings you are wearing: can I hear somebody hissing? Women hate it when you make jest of their jewelries or makeup. So using a sixteen year old kid’s fashion apparels and concerns to make an analogy of hers can even earn you a slap on the face especially if you are on a hell date. Instead praise her on how rich her costume is even comparing her clothes and jewelries to that of a celebrity like Oprah, Michelle Obama, Beyonce and not Lady Gaga or Madonna and definitely not a sixteen year old inexperienced chick. 
10.  I lost my Job: which lady will like to hang out with a broke ass? From the place I come from, women avoid jobless and cashless men- I don’t know of you. So telling her you lost your job on a first date is sure going to end the date on a broke note (whatever that means). Explaining your joblessness to her is like telling her how little she should order as you have so little on you and picking the bills might be a little difficult. This is another sign of insecurity and even sheer laziness. Remember women like their men- dependable, hardworking, strong and above all loaded. 
11.   I moved in with my mother? It is better you tell her plain “…I can’t have you sleep over in my place” though harsh but a lot better than telling her how big a sorry ass you are. Which still boils down to being insecure and financially lacking in handling your responsibilities and business. 
12.    Will you marry me? Though every woman will like their relationships leading them down the aisle. But being too frontal especially on the very first outing with her, can make her uneasy and jittery. Women are more emotional than men; they are so fragile particularly those ones who have a history of unfulfilled relationships. So proposing on a first date could get her to trust you less. This is so because she could have this feeling that you are taking advantage of her fragile state to hit her hard on a weak spot. Even if you have the best of intentions as regard marrying this woman, you can save this marriage proposal for a second or even a third date. Though many will disagree with me on this, but it is better safe than sorry. 
13.   I hope your mother Look like you? From my little experience with the women folk, they seem to be more attached to family than we men. So talking about a family member more so her mother in such a manner will surely ruin the nice evening. To her you are just telling her that her mother if not like her can be ugly, and just about any meaning she could read into your mutterings. 
14.    There’s so much salt in this pudding: I’m guilty on this one and so many guys get caught up in this too. I still remember recently how I slammed my plate on the table as a result of the minute food item I was served. I was so angry that I could not control my anger that I had to slam them plates on the table. My lady friend became so embarrassed that she almost worked out on me. Know this; such outburst will suggest two things. The first being that you are not with enough cash and secondly you don’t fancy her and instead of complaining about her looks or anything- you feel you should lash out your frustration on the waiter and lastly you are a plain nag, and will nag her on every of her imperfections. To save her from future heartbreak, she will turn you down for a second date. 
15.   Oh! This was why I hit my Ex: this is the sound and speech of a batterer. No woman will like to stay in an abusive relationship. No sane woman will go out with a man that hits her for the strangest of reasons. So making such remarks puts you in a bad light.

These are some reasons why you are still yet to get hooked permanently with a good woman, there are more reasons, however these are some of the basic ones every guy must avoid while out on a date with his dream girl.