Many a time, guys find themselves in the dire situation of not knowing how to tell their woman “it is over” some fearing the ripple effect this might result to; continue to pretend and stay in an unfulfilled relationship.
Well as a man, you really need to start to get a grip on how to do some things, especially how to handle a woman. If you cannot take charge of your affairs and relationships, this can affect the overall attitude you put to other important things in your life.
One of the situations you need to grapple with fast, is how to tell a woman “it is over” when it really glaring that you can keep going on with the mishap you call a relationship,
So sit back and relax let me treat you to a rich course in what I term as “emotional euphemism”- that is saying and acting out unpleasant things in a rather pleasing and confounding manner to the woman you feel has become a big surplus to requirement. below are twenty tested tips on how to stealthily break up without creating chaos and misunderstanding coupled with bodily harm and emotional trauma getting in the way.
Read on…
- Call her less: women generally crave for attention, and one way of showing this is true regular calls. A woman wants you to call her just to tell her the flimsiest of things, they expect your call just to hear you tell them how deeply you love them; they hope to see your call just to say “I love you”. But when you reduce these calls, it sends some signals. It makes her wonder if you don’t fancy her anymore. It freaks her out as she imagines in her freaky mind's eye you calling another woman instead of her. There’s this particular sister I pretty much don’t fancy, I met her true another female relative of mine. This lady do not meet my standards in a woman, technically speaking she was too demanding that I find her irritating (sorry sisters reading this as I don’t mean to insult your sensibilities). I tried to see if she’ll on her own notice my disinterest in her. To make this crystal clear, I stopped calling her as frequent like I used to when we first met. When she noticed this, she complained; after which I stopped calling her at all. After finding out that her complaints cannot change the situation but rather aggravate it, she got the message and moved on. This is the power of lesser calls, so learn how to use.
- Avoid her: this might be really hard especially if you live in the same neighborhood with her. But if you know how, then it is easy-peasy. To achieve this, avoid regular places she hangs out, avoid her friends and acquaintances, if you are living together which I fear you are not- then it is time you moved in with another friend, relative or even a female friend. Just do anything that will make her come into less contact with you. If she somehow protests of the situation, make up stories like “I’ve been so busy lately…” “I really need to create more time for my job”. When you tell her things like this after she notices your frequent absence, if she is wise enough she’ll understand it is time she considers giving some heads up to the the new guy wooing her.
- Cancel date nights: one thing I know about women aside having you tell them how beautiful they are is they love outings and dates. A woman hates it when she’s stood over. One way to make it clear and conspicuous that you are not in need of her anymore is cancelling date nights at your favorite rendezvous. women love being the cynosure of all eyes, they like to portray the image that they are currently the happiest woman alive because she is with the most reliable man in the whole wide world that treat her like a queen. the one place where she can always flaunt this good fortune of hers is on dates at cool and even odd places where other people get together; now imagine the cataclysm you must have caused by cancelling important moments like dates and more so doing this at every turn.
- Talk more about your job/career: When she starts getting less attention as your job and career gets more precedence over her, this is another clear indicator that you’ve begin developing cold feet over your relationship with her. Then you constantly shelve any ideas and any form of dialogue that she raises on how you both can move your relationship forward. but you should alternatively chip in issues and matters that concerns only how you can move up your career ladder and stuffs like that. With this steadily dominating the scenario, if she is really wise and sensitive she’ll understand it is time to get on with her boring life.
- Flirt
with her friends: I wonder which woman will love seeing her man rudely
enmeshed in the company of her friends catching so much fun instead of spending time
with her. Well this is how it really is when you get closer to her friends.You
send the message loud and clear with your actions in substitute to using words that
will warrant unnecessary confrontations that should easily be avoided. If you even want
to make it worse, never discuss issues that concerns her while in the company of any
of the friends you are hanging out. Women talk a lot, and the little things we
might regard as unimportant could mean a million dollar essence to them. So imagine
when this particular friend of hers you hanged out with comes back to give her a vivid detail of her outing in your company, and seriously she got
no mention of any sort in the conversation this her friend had with you. When this friend tell her this, she
can fizzle out without you even noticing (not in all cases as some women might
prefer going down fighting for what they feel is theirs). With the constant
flirting with every available female becoming the norm- you are
secretly telling “I’m no longer your
type- bounce… please”.
- Take vacations without her: Ladies love special moments spent in the company of the man they love and cherish. One of such moments will be taking vacations to fun spots either within or around the globe. Now picture how she feels after learning you left for such wonderful spots without her. This is another silent pointer that it is actually over between you both. To add some salt to injury, you can leave for this vacation in the company of another woman- her friend, colleague, female friend, female cousin or even her own sister senior or junior. This reminds me of TV series Arrows where the hero Oliver Queens left for vacation with his girlfriend’s sister only to lose her to a boat accident that left the girlfriend’s sister for dead which got his girlfriend so sick and mad with him. Depriving her of such momentary and rare fun gets her really hurt and under-appreciated (I wonder what that means?).
- Hang out more with the boys: One of the things that killed American song diva and Grammy Award winning singer cum song writer-Whitney Houston, was Bobby Brown's penchant for hanging out with the boys and totally neglecting her. Not that you need to go to these extremes as I don’t want my advice to lead to any sort of suicide or bodily harm. So if you must do this, you need to apply some caution that is if you really want to get the full effect of this action. So spending more time in the company of childhood friends, male colleagues and relatives; you are gradually revealing your intentions without you voicing it out. Remember this action will mean one thing” you bore me to hell…I’d prefer hanging with broads instead of getting frustrated with your sorry and boring ass…”. Yes this is what this action literally means.
- Never
reply her compliments: “oh you look
so handsome in those ties…” “Whoa! You sure look so good that I don’t mind
having you for dinner…” “geez! You sound so sweet I wish I can melt away to the
sound of your voice…” when you constantly ignore her compliments, you are
just silently regarding those compliments as underserving and rather unnecessary
and should be stopped forthwith. I remember this lady I was finding so unsavory
and needed a little space from her as she was really a demanding bit$$$$ch. She
always used this kind of remarks to cajole me into giving in to her demands. But
when she noticed her hypnotic and feminine wiles where no longer working on me,
she had only one option which was- bounce or stay and get humiliated. this what it feels like ignoring her with her subtle compliments.
- Avoid eye contact with her when you talk: Eye contact with a loved one depicts connectivity and trust. When you deliberately avoid getting to look her in the eyes like you used to; you practically get her estranged from you. If this is consciously sustained overtime, both of you inadvertently becomes strangers. Nothing can be more effective than getting her to be strangers with you and ultimately getting her outta your life carefully and succinctly.
- Show less concern about her welfare: One thing that endears a man to her woman is showing so much concern and care to anything pertaining to her happiness and general well being. From her family, job, pets, friends, religious beliefs, personal philosophy and just anything that defines her character and relationships. Just show a little indifference to any of these areas that concerns her, and you’ll notice a really jittery and agitated woman. Now make this a policy to remain as unconcerned as possible to all that points to her welfare and well-being. I don’t need to say more as your action can put her to her place- which is out of your life.
- Never talk about any of her family member: Making reference to her family members one way or the other makes a woman secured and comfortable with you. I remember this friend of mine who had this lady whose only concern in life was her nuclear family members (I wonder who doesn’t have family at heart?). Though I find this so sweet, but she really took it to the extremes by chatting, wining, nagging and even fighting when anything that concerns her family comes up to the utter dismay of those around her and this friend of mine. It got to the extent that my friend now regarded her as an irritant and a disturbance to his peace and happiness. Then he vowed to extricate himself from this lady’s firm grip and consulted me as usual. I asked him if he took part in conversations bothering this sister’s family and he answered in the affirmative. And I gave him the best advise on how to take care of this unfortunate situation. I made him understand the need to reduce his involvement in her tantrums by ignoring her conversations of anything that revolves around her family, when he took this counsel hook, line and sinker he saw how amazing this style was. Make sure you do it every time and don't forget to frown your face or make your face rather gloomy and expressionless. If you doubt me on the efficacy of this tactic, you can take me up on this one and I assure you I'll prevail, trust me.
- Reduce how you spend the night in the apartment you share: If for some reason you are living in the same apartment with her, don’t you think it will be more appropriate you moved out or better still reduce drastically the number of nights spent in the shared apartment? You can start by skipping weekends, from weekends to ordinary days and then… well you can fill in the gaps.
- Get drunk once in a while: I occasionally like carousing and drinking wild with some of my wacky friends when I find any lady around me at any giving time or moment bitchy and nagging. If you happen to find yourself in an unfulfilling relationship and for every sane reason want to get quickly out to keep your sanity, then do this- go out and get drunk. Why this tactic can be very effective is this- in your drunken state tell her the obvious without mincing words. If you find her unattractive, then say it while still drunk, if your sex like is boring this is the time to tell her the details why you find her sloppy in bed, if her family and relatives are meddling in your affairs, what better time to tell her this if not now that you are drunk to stupor. Being drunk can become the tool to ease her gradually out of your boring life. However never get too drunk or you might just get your reputation messed up and the very essence that necessitated your actions distorted, so do it properly and reap the benefits by getting her permanently outta your life so easily with a couple of drinks…
- Keep late nights: Drinking will not only suffice, so you can add more to your list of distasteful pastime like- keeping late nights. When you start staying away from her through actions like this; you are strategically making it clear that you find her quite displeasing and you deserve better. Keeping late nights can suggest many things. From seeing another woman to taking more pleasure in your work rather than her or simply put-you are transforming into an ogre who prefers staying alone in solitude. Women need our attention especially during cold nights and bad days. When you starve her of this attention by staying deep into the nights in only-god-knows-where, you are just are lucidly saying- “please woman I need my space, can I have it...”
- Put on a stern face, but never frown or even hiss: Being expressionless and somewhat indifferent to things going on around you while in her presence can be a potent tool in your arsenal of it-is-over-type tactics if you know how to use it. Good enough I'm blessed with this very stern looking face than can send jitters down the spine of anybody I plan to look mean to.but you can still replicate this stern-looking-effect if you have a clownish or friendly face by learning how to mask the entire features of your face like your smile, frown, dimples (if you’ve got one), displeasures and even anger. Employing this mean-looking face strategy will sure send a very dangerous signal to her that things between the both of you are no longer rosy. While doing this, make sure you eschew any form of bitterness in your soul; never let it reflect as it might be mistaken for something else. Never hiss, howl or holler. Just be plain and straight. Remember, While doing this never you ignore her conversations, but take part in it as long as it is healthy. Nonetheless make this conversation formal and professional to drive home your point (stern looking face I mean).
- Avoid kissing her: One thing I’ve noticed in most of the ladies I’ve been with is their fondness for exchanging kisses at every god given opportunity. They kiss you when you are leaving for work, going to bed, traveling, to show how they missed you, showing you how deeply affected they are being around you or just any flimsy reason that will make her want to spit lovingly into your mouth. But when you begin to reduce the number of kisses you give and receive, it throws her off balance. This is what many guys do when they feel their relationship is becoming extraneous and heavily becoming a burden to their tired shoulders. You can as well try it and see how effective this can be.
- Talk about her Imperfections: “gosh! Your nose are so big and I find it disturbing to look at…” “damn! I wish you looked like Beyonce, not like your long faced mum” “ yikes! I know you are too slow to catch up…” “oh my God! Look at how ignorant you are…” and just any comment that will make her look timid and very stupid. If she cooks a meal, you complain of the salt, if she brushes her hair, you wine about using your comb instead of hers. When you keep nagging like this like a bitch in heat; you begin to look menacing to her and if she is pretty fast if figuring things out and not as dumb as you complained, then it is the time for her to do the most honorable thing- walk.
- Move out of the House: Many men these days who unfortunately find themselves living with an unpleasant partner prefer moving out instead of the other way round. Though some will rather chase the woman out if he rented or own the apartment, doing this has resulted in many men losing heavily in alimony related litigation and suitcases. But being wise and moving out instead should be the wise choice in getting her expertly outta of your sorry ass life.
- Starve her of Sex: This is supposed to be the number one point but I rather saved it for number nineteen for some reasons. Sex is the very backbone that holds any relationship. When the sex becomes boring or non-existent it molds that relationship into something very cold and unassuming. Sex is connection and women feel differently about sex than men. When you deliberately deny her of sex, you deny her of any sort of emotional and mutual connection with you. I’ve seen many men and women walk out of relationships for the simple reason of poor and unsatisfactory sex
- Call her and tell her: Well when all these tactics are employed and still she decides to stay on against all odds, then it is time to tell her in plain simple English- “it is over…” if you can’t muster the courage to do so, then you can employ the services of a friend, relative, Relationship expert or counselor if you want to save some face and avoid some hot slaps and maybe blows .
Whatever you
do bro, make sure you don’t get a woman to do anything drastic and life threatening.
Remember “hell hath no fury like a woman
scorned!”…
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